8 Lessons I Learned from 'How To Be Single'

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Yep, "How To Be Single" is the title of an American rom-com (romantic-comedy) movie which released in February this year. I watched it a few weeks ago (it's not too late) and I LOVE IT! You know the movie, right? Dakota Johnson, Rebel Wilson, Leslie Mann, and Alison Brie are the main actresses. This movie is about these four women who are kinda related with each other. I forgot their names in the movie, tho. But I love each of their characters and stories.
Well, whether you're a guy or a lady, whether you're single or in a relationship, if you haven't watched it, you should! Because for me, it's not like the cheesy rom-coms, I actually learned some meaningful lessons from it.

P.S.: There might be some spoilers. Don't say I didn't warn ya.

LESSON #1:

BE CONFIDENT

Just like Rebel Wilson's character in this movie who is honest, straight-forward, and confident (and naughty). She believes in herself. She believes that she's beautiful, interesting, and guys go crazy over her. Well, it's true. When she goes to a party, she never buys the drink. Boys buy the drink for her. And that's some kind of AWESOME.

LESSON #2:

DON'T LOWER YOUR STANDARDS

Alison Brie's character knows exactly what kind of guy that she wants in her life. She has some criteria like college-educated, not too ugly, taller than her, and wants kids. So she puts some effort to find a guy like that and works for it by using ten different dating websites (well, I think it's kinda too much, tho). She didn't lower her standards until finally she found the one. I know most of you have criteria for your dream guy (if you're a lady). So yeah, there's a hope that someone out there matches all your criteria, single ladies!

LESSON #3:

SOMEONE TRULY LOVES YOU

Maybe you haven't realized that, but someone somewhere really cares about you and loves you no matter how fucked messed up you are. In this movie, Leslie Mann is an independent woman who always chooses career over love. And then, she met a guy who pours his love on her but she freaks out and keeps pushing him away (sounds related?). But no matter how bad people have failed you in the past, sometimes you gotta look closer to find that particular someone who is still there with you even when they saw you at your worst, even when you told them your deep dark secrets. When you finally find them, you should have faith on them, accept the fact that they love you just the way you are, and love them back.

LESSON #4:

BREAKING UP IS NOT

THE END OF THE WORLD

Come on, it's not the end! We all know it sucks, it makes you question what's wrong about your relationship, it makes you question about yourself, it makes you burst into tears every single time you hear a love song because this one stupid song reminds you of all the little things you did together. But you still have girlfriends (or for boys, boyfriends) that you can be crazy with! Forget about your lame ex and have fun with your friends!

LESSON #5:

THESE #POSTPARTY TIPS

Take notes.

LESSON #6:
(for ladies)

IF THAT NEW GUY TEXTED YOU,

WAIT 4 HOURS TO RESPOND

AND DON'T USE EMOJI

This is Rebel Wilson's character's theory.

If you still use emoji, you will be tit-punched. Warned ya.

LESSON #7:

REMEMBER YOUR DRINK NUMBER

Again, Rebel Wilson's character's theory. She said that in every male-female relationship, there's a total number of drinks and if you hit that, you will definitely have sex.

Find out how many drinks it takes to make you wasted, that's your drink number. So, every time you have a drink with a guy (if you're a lady), ask him about his drink number. Sum those numbers up to have a new number. And if both of you hit that new number, know what's going to happen next. ;)

LESSON #8:

"THE THING ABOUT BEING SINGLE IS

YOU SHOULD CHERISH IT"

In this movie, Dakota Johnson's character was never alone in her life. She lived with her family, and after that she lived with her long-time boyfriend. She never did anything alone even though she has a dream of hiking through the Grand Canyon. She keeps falling in and out of love with guys who would just broke her heart in the end. So, instead of searching for guys and have her heart broken over and over again, she decided to let herself be alone and finally found out who her real friends are, and who she is, and she did everything she was dreaming of.

So, some of you might have just broken up or single for long, some of you might be going to make up with your ex, some of you might be in a serious relationship, or a complicated one... No matter what your status is, you should not be afraid if one day (or right now) you're alone or single. Enjoy it. Cherish it. Try to watch movies alone, eat alone, travel alone. Know yourself when you're alone. Chase your dreams. Don't let anybody else define you. So when you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, it's not because you're afraid of being alone but it's because you finally found the person who matches your life principles or all of your criteria, or someone who matches your craziness or weirdness, or simply someone whom you can live without but you don't want to.
Well, if you haven't found that person, good luck!